As the priest of my home, it’s my duty to speak life over my wife. In her presence, and not in her presence. She needs to hear my voice in affirmation of what the word of God says about her. As I pray to God, I must speak those things that are not yet present into the atmosphere until I see them.
More importantly, words hurt! Our wives are incubators, so we must be very intentional about what we say to them.
Speak life!
”Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that he might present to himself a glorious church, not having spot, wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.“
Ephesians 5:25-27 KJV
1. “You always…”: Avoid making sweeping generalizations about your spouse’s behavior.
2. “It’s not a big deal”: Downplaying your partner’s concerns can be dismissive.
3. “You’re overreacting.” Invalidating feelings can lead to communication breakdown.
4. “Why can’t you be more like…” Comparisons can breed resentment and insecurity.
5. “You never appreciate what I do.” Accusatory statements can escalate conflicts.
6. “I told you so.” Instead of pointing out mistakes, focus on problem-solving together.
7. “I don’t have time for”this”—brushing off important conversations can harm connections.
5 Christian books to increase the health of your marriage
1. “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman offers insights into understanding and expressing love in a marriage.
2. “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerichs explores the key concepts of love and respect in a marital relationship.
3. “Sacred Marriage” by Gary Thomas delves into the spiritual aspects of marriage, emphasizing its potential for personal growth.
4. “The Meaning of Marriage” by Timothy Keller provides a thoughtful and biblically grounded perspective on the purpose and significance of marriage.
5. “Boundaries in Marriage” by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend discusses setting healthy boundaries to strengthen the foundation of a marriage.
