How often do we do check in-s with ourselves, guys? We experience pain and disappointment too, and sometimes suppress it.

As a father, you cannot detach yourself from leadership because it is an intrinsic part of fatherhood. Every father, sooner or later, will have to deal with some infirmity. It is possible that your physique may be predisposed to certain illnesses and symptoms from birth or that you will suffer from a mishap or a deterioration in health as you progress through life. You may not have any physical infirmities, and you may have the enormous blessing of health. However, you may have an even more serious infirmity, a spiritual or mental wound. There’ll be something in your affliction that you would change if you could; or, if you do not have any infirmity of mind or body, you will have some cross to bear, whether in your family, in your profession, or some of your surroundings.

Ask God Tough Questions

“My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” (Mark 15:34).

In his divinity, Jesus understood God’s heart. He didn’t need to question God’s mind at all. Nevertheless, Jesus was also a human being, specifically, a man like you and me. He felt anguish in the same way that we do. It’s reassuring to know that when he was in the deepest pain, he had to ask God, “Why?” By asking why Christ granted us the liberty to ask God challenging questions. We don’t have to be embarrassed by our uncertainties and anxieties because Christ asked why. God is not enraged because we seek more explanations. In reality, our difficult inquiries may be what bring us closer to God.

Forgive Immediately

“Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34).

“Father, forgive them,” Christ screamed aloud as the nails were driven deeper into His palms. He refused to allow any hatred to grow. He was probably reminding us that the quicker we forgive, the better. Perhaps someone meant to shield you and keep you secure harmed you. Perhaps you were mistreated. Your protection has been compromised. You may be thinking that it is not easy to forgive. You are correct! I don’t believe we can forgive on our own. We must pray to God, our Father, to assist us as Christ taught us.

Trust in Jesus’ Promises

“Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in paradise” (Luke 23:43).

One of the offenders nailed to the cross beside Christ recognized that his sinfulness was the cause of his troubles and that Christ was his only salvation. “Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom,” he pleads. And Jesus responds, “I will not only remember you, but I will be with you.” While he was dropping dead, Christ was determined to save others. In the wake of our pain, he illustrated how to care for others. Your suffering grants you the opportunity to be heard. When you proclaim the word of God, your suffering serves a purpose. What if your brief worldly suffering might eternally alter someone else’s heavenly existence? To whom could you show Christ’s love today?

Trade your Wounds for healing

“It is finished” (John 19:30).

It wasn’t a defeatist scream when Christ declared, “It is finished.” It was a triumphant scream! These three terms are essentially one term in Greek, tetelestai, which translates to “paid in full.” This is game-changing! It wasn’t just a replacement punishment—His life for our sins—when Jesus gladly offered Himself to us. It was an all-or-nothing deal—all of him for us all. He did more than pay for and removed our sin. Christ gave us his rightful place with God. He swapped all that was broken in us for everything good in him. Jesus exchanged our wrongdoing, grief, and sorrow for an infinite amount of purity, happiness, and healing. You don’t have to live in humiliation anymore. God substitutes your scars and despair for His Son’s healing and magnificence.

Ultimately, every man has to endure some infirmity. It is not impossible to withstand that infirmity when the spirit is healthy and confident. Trusting in Jesus and seeking God’s counsel is the first step towards healing, and as mentioned earlier, healing is a necessary step in good fatherhood and leadership.